Women Are Like Choices,Men Are Like Chances

I write this blog in hopes that it will inspire those who feel lost in love or lost in ever searching for love.

Women Are Like Choices, Men Are Like Chances. Some Women don't always make the right choices, and most men don't deserve the chances because they have not proven themselves worthy. Women in general mature more than men. You can never make anyone love you. You can only be YOURSELF and show how much you care for your significant other. Relationships should be 50/50, but expect the unexpected with EVERYONE. I knew someone that told me they broke off a 7yr relationship and enjoyed dating afterwards. Just because you have been with someone for so long, does not mean you are MEANT to be with them.

It isn't written in stone.My advice for women who have gotten out of long-term relationship is to ALLOW TIME TO HEAL before you move forward.The best way to move forward is to not look back,but KEEP GOING. Enjoy Casual Dating just for the Fun of it. You will learn a lot about yourself and what you expect when you are ready for another serious relationship. Men, when you miss out on the opportunity, you open the door for the next man to enter the woman's life. No one is perfect.The Choices you make determine the chances you will have in any relationship.In any relationship, if your choice is to be with a player, you put yourself at risk to be played.Your life won't be able to blossom, if you are not allowing yourself to grow.

Interesting Random Quotes

I enjoy writing my own quotes,but always find it interesting to read quotes that people pass around. Here are some of my favs including some by me as well!

"Have u ever noticed that Rolls Royce and Bentley don't have commercials? REASON: They know the value of their product &that is what brings the customers 2 them. LESSON: When u know your value, u don't have 2 beg people 2 be with u, spend time with u, love u or be a friend to u. Be confident in who… GOD made u 2 be. Everyone can't afford the LUXURY of your friendship :-)."

" To All you SINGLE ladies who are in such a hurry to get married, Here's a quick piece of Biblical advice: Ruth patiently waited for her mate, Boaz. While waiting on YOUR Boaz, don't settle for ANY of his relatives: Brokeaz, Poaz, Lyinaz, Cheatinaz, Dumbaz, Cheapaz, Lockedupaz, Goodfornothinaz, Lazyaz or Marriedaz... and especially his third cousin, Beatinyoaz. Please wait on your Boaz & make sure he respects Yoaz "

" Too MANY Women Are In Relationships With Single Men. lol "

" I Notice Some women always go back to a cheating Man,but NEVER have I seen a man take back a cheating woman. If Men are able to know their worth,ladies you should too. Just a thought :-)."-Barbara.A.A.

"Men Have The STRENGTH,But Trust Me,It Is Women That Hold The POWER :-)."

" God is Such a Gentleman.The Way He Has Opened So Many Doors For Me :-)."

" Everyone Wants To Take Take Over The World..lol . I Honestly Don't Believe Anyone Can Handle God's Job." - Barbara.A.A.

" EVERY Woman DESERVES a MAN That Will Keep All The Promises Her Ex Broke."

New Year New Life

January Baby Yes That's Me . I Feel Positive About This Year. At My Age Was Able To Eliminate The Negativity And Move Forward. Can't Say That I Miss The Past. The Lord Will Never Put You Through More Than You Can Handle. If the Lord Gets You To It, He Can Pull You Through It.

Men,Women--Cheating Is Not An Option. Your Happiness Is

 Why Do Men Cheat? Why Do Women Cheat?
Physical Necessities? Emotional Needs? Many Men Cheat More Than Women, But Women Are Just As Scandulous As Men. If You're Honestly Not Happy With The Person You're With, Why Cause Turmoil And Hurt Two Lives At Once? If You're Unhappy, You LEAVE. There Is Always Anyone For Everyone. Set Your Standards. What You Won't Be Willing To Do For Your Partnet Someone Else Will. If Your Partner Can't Respect That, Remember, Someone Else Will Be Patient Enough To Wait :).

" All Fingers Are Not The Same." A Familiar Quote I Like.I Don't Feel All Men Are Dogs. It's More So The Majority Of How Many Men Disrespect a Female, That A Woman Would Feel Discouraged And Hold Herself Back From Opening Herself Up To The... Next Guy. A Good Man Who Can Get Through To A Woman Scorned, Is a Keeper. Just Like People In General Set Themselves Up For Failure Without Hard Work,Sometimes Women Set Themselves For The Kind Of Guy They Have or Want. A Guy Only Treats A Woman The Way She Allows Him To Or Honestly How She Portrays Herself. Don't Make Someone Your Priority Who Only Considers You An Option. Respect and Honesty Works Two Ways. If You Settle For Less, You Will Get Less. Some Men Honestly Tell You What You Want To Hear. You Have To Set Your Own Standards. If Your Standards Are High And You Can Keep To Your Word Not To let Someone Break You Down Easily, The Right Man Will Know How To Reach You. You Are What You Attract. Not All Men Are The Same. Everyone Has a Choice, But Very Few Deserve a Chance. Choose Wisely My Real Ladies ;)! ♥

Don't Allow The Happenings of Life To Pass You By. You Must Live In Order To Get By

Afternoon Bloggers and Bloggettes ;),

Have You Ever Witnessed How Fast Life Is Happening To You? Ever Laid Back And Just Witnessed Life Is What's Happening To You? The Neighborhoods Are Changing, Becoming More Cautious. You May Regret Certain Situations Or People In Your Life, But Don't Allow The Past To OverPower You. Instead Allow Life's Lessons To Empower You. It's Never Easy Being The Bigger Person, But It's A Big Step To Realize You Have Outgrown The B.S And Focus On What Really Matters. You Have Women Who Have Children At Such A Young Age, But Still Manage To Go To School To Complete Their Degree. Yes Everyone Makes Mistakes, But It's Your Responsibility To Learn From The Mistakes You Made.Your Past May Be Engraved, However, Your Future Is Not Set In Stone. Your Individuality Is Your Trademark. Your Mark Is How You Affect The People Around You and Dare I Say, The World Itself.

NO I'm Not Giving A Lecture. I'm Not Tryna School Ya(LOL).  Growing Up As The Youngest,I Just Have Been Well Witted Beyond My Years. My Beautiful Older Sisters Have Also Intrigued Me With Their Intellect As They Have Also Witnessed The Aspect Of Life. You Will Be Surprised To See How Many People Have Changed Situations That Can Change The Lives Of Others, Beyond Their Own Control. 

Let's Learn To Say What We Mean, and Mean What We Say. Saying It Means NOTHING If Your Actions Betray It. Lord Allow Us To Recognize The Real Amongst The Fake. To PRAISE Those Who Were Equipped To Recognize Change. Allow Us To Do What We Have To Do, So We Can Do What We Want To Do. Live For Yourself And Those That Give Meaning To Your Life. Your Past Does Not Determine Your Future. Your Education Takes You Forward. Your Ignorance Will Bring You Back. Let Us Not Compete For  Unwanted Attention, But To Focus On Paying Attention.Obligations Become Obstacles When You Allow Yourself To Be Distracted By Roadblocks.Real Friends Are 'Friends To The End'. Enemies Are Envious.  Keep Those Who Are Supportive, Rid Yourself Of Those Envious. People Who Don't Love You At Your Best, Can't Handle To Be There For You At Your Worst. When Worse Comes To Worse, FAMILY Will ALWAYS Be There First.Everyone Is Not Going To Like You, But Everyone In Your Life Is Going To Love You. Life's Too Short.

Originality..Where Has It Gone ?

Why are so many people fake? Is it honestly hard to be yourself? I've had  "friendships" come and go as a result of  girls who didn't know how to be themselves around certain people. It's pathetic and even more distasteful to see how they start to act among their own "new" group of friends. It's so unattractive for a girl to try and be like someone else to please others. They say "imitation is the best form of flattery". However, isn't it quite flattering to always remain true to yourself? I was watching the Tyra Banks Show yesterday and ladies were brought on the show who perform cosmetic surgery on THEMSELVES. As a result of not going to an actual professional, these ladies surely paid the ultimate price for "beauty". Why try to enhance insecurities? NOBODY is PERFECT. You have people starving in 3rd World Countries that need money much more than those that spend it on non-essentials. You have people that are of average weight who battle with mirrors about being thin or fat. Everyone is beautiful in their own light. Most are attractive to others, some to very Few. But in this one life to live you have to wake up each morning and no matter what, Be Proud To Be *YOU*. To Be Fake Is A Sign Of Weakness. To Be Real Takes Courage. Originality. WHERE HAS IT GONE?

Allow Me To Re-Introduce Myself ;)

Strangers,Associates,and Acquaintences know me as "Barbara".  Family and Friends know me as ''Barbs,Babs,Barbie,Bobbie, and B ". I'm Ghanaian, Burkinabian,and French. I'm the last of 5 children so YES that makes me the BABY :) lol. I'm often described as being comical, opinionated, and sarcastic.  I speak my mind so you may want to take that as either good,bad, or driven. I heard a black man  say that black women  were born with two strikes against them. 1. Being Black 2. Being a Female.  I agree it is difficult to live  life when you're considered a minority,However I don't use that as an excuse to keep me from reaching my goal. Same applies to being a woman.  Now unless you are producing babies, women don't necessarily NEED men. It is great to have support from a significant other or a loved one, but you don't necessarily need to step outside yourself in order to get to where you need to be. I respect individuals that are Humble. To remain levelheaded that is the type of positive attitude I  feel everyone should have. What Interests Me Is FOOD, Journalism, Science Of Health, and The Never Ending Trend of Fashion. I have been writing poetry , personal quotes, as well as short stories for over 8yrs. I am  almost on my 4th book! I May post some random topics depending on my Mood :). Humble,Lovable,Beautiful. I'm Unforgettable.